Люкс Альптраум - Притворство [Почему женщины лгут о сексе и какая правда за этим скрывается] [litres]

Идея этой книги пришла ко мне после того, как я написала статью для электронного ресурса Fusion (сейчас он называется Splinter News ). Этот материал был посвящен всеобщей озабоченности постоянным женским враньем. Я глубоко признательна Даниеле Фридман за то, что она помогла мне подготовить публикацию и направила по верному пути: по ее совету я начала исследовать эту тему более серьезно. Я горячо благодарю своего литературного агента, Монику Верму, за поддержку и подсказки в поиске наиболее убедительных аргументов. Спасибо редактору Стефании Кнэпп за ценные замечания и предложения, а также всей команде издательства Seal Press за помощь в подготовке книги. Я очень благодарна маме, папе, Йэлю и Дейву за то, что они тридцать с лишним лет терпят мои выходки. И спасибо Кваме – он всегда напоминает мне, как важно быть честной.

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